Frequently Asked Questions
Q: Is this some kind of weird sex party?
A: No.
Q: How are you going to ensure that it won't be creepy?
A: We create an environment in which it would be so clearly inappropriate for anyone to do or say something smarmy that most likely, they just wouldn't do it. If they were to, it would be so thoroughly shut down by the group that that person would be stripped of any sort of threatening power they may have held. There are also volunteers on hand at every event to help out in any way that's needed.
Q: Have people fallen in love as a result of this event?
A: Yup.
Q: How many people usually come to these events?
A: Average is around 50 participants.
Q: What's the balance of men and women?
A: It varies, but it's usually around 60% women, 40% men.
Q: What’s the average age?
A: Usually 30s, but we get people from their 20s through 60s, and beyond! I will say that men over 50 have consistently been the hardest demographic for us to reach. If YOU are a man over 50 who’s brave enough to be a little vulnerable… we love you already!! We want you here! And if you know other men who fit this description, please tell them about this event!
Q: What if I'm poly?
A: Come!
Q: What's considered creepy?
A: Viewing and treating people as objects rather than as whole people is creepy. Not caring about or respecting other people’s boundaries is creepy. But as long as you’re showing up respectfully, don't worry too much about being judged here. Unlike at other dating events, the point is not to judge or be judged. The point is to connect, and to open up to connection. The Not-Creepy Gathering actually allows us to expand our notion of what's acceptable. One of the really beautiful things about this event is that it provides an opportunity for people to state what they want, openly and honestly, without shame.
Q: What happens at the event?
A: It is very much a structured event, so be on time! I don't want to give away all the surprises... Just come. You'll see